Self-Esteem

 I looked for a blog that was dealing with self-esteem. I have found one that tells me that self-esteem sometimes happens when you are depressed. You're in this state of mind when your depressed. What ever someone says you take it a different way. The reason for that is you have so much emotions happening right now in your body that you don't know how to even cope with all of it.

 Everyone has self-esteem problems. It could be because of bullying, your parents, and society. The reason that I say society because it's hard on you. If you do something wrong you get made fun of, if you doing something right you get mad fun of. You just can't please society. The thing is I'm not telling everyone your going to get made fun of, I'm just telling you life is hard! The blog that I read suggest ways you can make a stronger self-esteem. The first thing that you could do is deal with dysfunctional thinking. Ask your self three questions.

The first one is "What evidence supports my thinking?" The question is asking what is making you think the way that you are right now. For example, your down grading your self. What evidence do you have. Well someone called you fat or ugly. To be honest with everyone, in my opinion everyone is ugly, fat, pretty, skinny, and everything else. I believe that is because we can all be that way no matter what. If you like it or not everyone all all those things. The second question is asking, "Would others say this is true about me?" Ask your friends what do they think about you. If you don't want to talk to friend about then maybe find a family member. Just ask someone to see what they say about you. The finally question that you need to ask you self is. "Does feeling this way make me feel good about myself or bad about myself?”Are the negative thoughts bring you more down are they maybe help you do something. What I mean by that is if people are calling you fat, does it make you want to start eating healthy and work out?

 The next step to having a stronger Self-esteem is journal. Journal what you are feeling. Write down your negative thoughts that you are feeling. Sometimes it helps you out because you can go back to it and figure out how to help other or your self again. The third step is seek positive support. Find books, newspapers, and friends. Read books that say positive things about anyone or look up picture that say that you are unique. The fourth step is create visual cues. " Visual cues provide perspective and help you curb negative self-talk, Serani said. For instance, she suggested leaving positive notes around your house and office and keeping inspiring quotes on your desktop" 

The fifth step is begging a step with a boost. Tell something positive about your self. Tell your self that you are pretty and your skinny. The sixth step is soother yourself. Do something that make you feel good about yourself. The seventh step is discover and pursue your passions. When your depressed write down some stuff that you love to do or stuff that can make you happy. Then go back through the list and do those things. The final step is redefine failure, and keep trying. When your at your low time low and you thing that you are a failure then think of a different way you can thing that. Everyone can be a failure, but failure leads to success. Just keep trying and even reapt  all if these step to help you with you self-esteem. 

This is the blog that I read to get all of these steps and check them out. They post other things also----> http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/01/24/8-suggestions-for-strengthening-self-esteem-when-you-have-depression/